Wednesday, 7 January 2009

A Resolution




“I’d rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I am not”
- Kurt Cobain


My most important resolution this year - to be true to who I am, whoever that may be.


Sharon J

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17 comments:

Carol said...

How true is that?!!!! Me the same. I think I will have to find 'me' this year.

Jennifer said...

Amen Sista!

Little Terraced House said...

Good for you Sharon ! Go for it girl. Have a great New Year !!
Best wishes Babs

Vicus Scurra said...

I'd rather be who I am than Kurt Cobain.

Jade of the Jungle said...

Aah, Kurt was such a legend...

Love it x

garblednoise said...

Amen to that...I've been trying to do the same for the past couple of years and it gets easier with practice. Here's to more of the same in 2009.

Sharon J said...

@ Carol. At our age, it's about time.

@ Jennifer. *High Five*

@ LTH. Happy New Year to you too, Babs xx

@ Vicus. And that, my dear cousin, is exactly the point :)

@ Jade. He was :)

@ Garblednoise. I hope it does. You seem to be doing a pretty good job of it though :)

Margaret's Ramblings said...

Totally agree Sharon, just wish I had learnt this a lot earlier.
Margaret

Lizzie said...

Too true

livingmyrichlife said...

It's a worthy goal. It's often so hard to be who we really are and to face any criticism we might recieve, however I will be doing my best to be more authentic and true to myself this year.

Sharon J said...

@ Margaret. Better late than never :)

@ Livingmyrichlife. Yes, it's the criticism that generally stops us. We want to be liked (loved) but I really think it's better to be loved by a few who love you for who you really are.

G. Runge. said...

I think what Mr Scurra was alluding to was that Curt Cobain was a sad confused junkie who blew his brains out after becoming psychotic. He completely lost sight of who he was and what he meant to people. He's become revered because he was tragic and thus became a hero to sad, deluded shoe-gazing teenagers. He certainly wasn't original.

Sharon J said...

Thank you for your comment, Mr/Mrs Grunge although you haven’t said anything there that most don’t already know. Unfortunately I’m not quite sure what the point you’re trying to make is either. Does the fact that he used drugs and blew his brains out make his words less poignant? Certainly not to me and probably not to others who look beyond the obvious either.

Frugal Trenches said...

Wow, love this quote, thank you. I have had an incident with a friend this week where I felt she was scared to stand up for what/who she believed in and it really made me realize how important strength of character is. Thank you!

G.Runge said...

It's Ms.

The point is that he WAS loved for who he was. And what he was wasn't very pleasant. A lot of people are hated for who they are. Many are hated for what they think they are. Personally I think his words are trite crap; his sad excuse for a waste of a talented life. He's asking people to love his failings and his failings were that he couldn't cope without blinding himself to reality.

I'm not sure what the point is you're making. Are you saying you don't know who you are?

Sharon J said...

Ms Grunge. I still think you’re entirely missing the point. Who said those words are unimportant in this context, what matters is that many people, myself included, can identify with that particular quote.

I agree that many ARE hated for what they are but hate is a strong emotion, most are simply disliked, something I’m sure applies to both you, me and every other visitor to this blog. I also agree that some are hated/many are disliked for what they think they are, but surely that’s because they don’t truly understand who they actually are? Some people make a conscious choice to hide their true personalities, others have become lost along the way. Life’s a difficult path to tread and it isn’t always easy to keep to the track that you were meant to be in. My guess is that most people who visit psychologists are there for this very reason. It certainly isn’t anything unusual.

Could you explain why his words are trite? That you feel they’re ‘crap’ is of course your personal opinion but not one I personally agree with. Still, part of being who you are is not having to agree with everybody else, isn’t it?

Whether or not Mr Cobain was asking people to love his failings is purely speculation on your part. Unless you were able to read minds while he was alive or have acted as his personal psychologist, I doubt very much that you know very much at all about what he was actually thinking at the time he spoke those words. Jumping to conclusions and judging people based on those conclusions isn’t, in my opinion, a particularly healthy approach to life.

As to what I’m saying - what my point is - I think that’s quite clear. Everybody else seemed to understand it. But then maybe you have more personal reasons for asking, being as you’ve left this comment via the computers belonging to Cheshire County Council. That would suggest that you perhaps know me better than you’re letting on.

cris@ said...

That's a true confession. I understand It's kind a difficult to be always true to yourself as human, however I confess that this is not a theory. This is a theorem. It is not something as assumption. Many people can do this, though they have gone through many sacrifices and surrendering. Man's transformation is a long process, but it never says we cannot attain the finish line. This can be an ultimate goal of man, to be true till the end. Words is like a two-edged sword, it can kill and it can give life. Thus, man has always a choice to pick out either of the two. It is just a matter of being true to yourself. If man desires a total transformation I tell you he would certainly go for it come what may. If his purpose and motivation for a change is more powerful that you are, he would take the all the risk just to be true until the end. Kamja has something to tell us to be true also to which I learned some principles how can I make it a habit.